There are a lot of kinks out there, and a lot of ways to enjoy each of them. Another kink I really enjoy is Bondage. Using things to restrain someone.

Bondage can be something as small as handcuffing your partner, or as big as suspending them by wrapping them up in many many feet of rope. The things one can use for bondage are many and varied. The most common are rope and hand cuffs. Also popular are tape, saran wrap, silk ties, zip ties.

Note: Like most kinks, when done improperly, bondage can be dangerous. So if you’re inexperienced, take things slow, always have EMT Shears on hand, and pay attention to the signals your sub is giving you.

Like many people, my first experience with bondage was using handcuffs and gags during sex. My now ex husband liked to handcuff me to the headboard, usually face down, so he could do what he wanted with me.

Note: Always make sure your partner is fully consenting before you do anything with them. You should always negotiate what you will do with them before hand.

In the years since I’ve left him, I’ve experimented with bondage a lot more. Most of the time, I am the one that is doing the tying. Not all of the people I’ve play with are into bondage, and even with the ones that are into it, we don’t always use bondage while playing.

In my toy box, I have all the usual suspects. Many lengths of rope, most of it soft cotton, some of it rough jute and sisal. I have metal hand cuffs, leather cuffs for wrists and ankles. Roles of duct tape. My personal favorite is a roll of plastic wrap that you can get at home depot, its meant for wrapping boxes.

With the plastic wrap, you can use it to wrap someone to something, such as to a board or pole, a saint andrews cross, or many other things. One thing I like to do with it is to wrap my partner, from ankles to chest. If my partner is a woman (usually is) I usually wrap a magic wand against them, so its held tight against her mound. I stop right below her breasts. If I don’t wrap a magic wand against them, I’ll leave a gap so their crotch and ass are exposed.

Once wrapped up, there are many things you can do to them. Wax play (on exposed parts), flogging, using a vibrator on them, use your imagination.

Sometimes I like being tied up. My favorite memory about being tied up was a few years ago. I went with Mark, a friend, to a local kink groups play party. It was pretty low key. Mostly just people hanging out talking, with small groups and couples playing. They had a frame, like a free standing door frame. I had watched a few couples play. A couple people used the saint andrews cross, one chained her sub to the cuffs attached to the wall. But no one used the door frame. Looking it over, I noticed there were eye bolts all around it.

Mark had been exploring BDSM with me for a few months, so he asked if I would be comfortable being tied up in front of the group. I thought about it for a while before agreeing. I have some self confidence issues, though they were worse back then. I’m still not sure what made me do it, but before I could talk myself out of it, I stripped out of everything but my panties. Mark strapped some padded leather cuffs around my wrists and ankles then attached them to the eye bolts with carabiners. I was standing there, spread eagled. He put a bit gag into my mouth and strapped it around my head. I zoned out a little as he spent the next while flogging me. He had a relatively gentle flogger, but after a while I was covered in faint marks from it.

Yesterday, while getting ready to run errands, I tied myself into a rope harness much like the attached picture. I wore a loose dress over it, so no one could see the rope under it. There is something very erotic about walking up and down the aisles in a grocery store while in bondage. By the time I got home, I had soaked through my dress. I dropped the groceries in the kitchen and practically tore my dress off as I hurried back to my room. I came within moments of sliding a rabbit vibrator into my wet pussy. The rope between my legs held it in place, so I got to just lay there and moan.